Self-worth issues
Venus is the ruling planet of Taurus, and it speaks to one’s sense of self-worth and self-love. A person with Saturn square Venus in their natal chart may feel that they are not worthy of love and acceptance. Essentially, the individual may harbor a lack of self-trust that gnaws at them, causing them to doubt the motives of others. A Saturn square Venus individual might demand the other party to ‘prove their love.’ This can manifest as a demand where the other party must forsake their own principles and rights so that the partner doesn’t feel abandoned. This can be one form of codependency.
Conversely, the same pattern can play out in reverse. A person with Saturn square Venus may disregard their own needs just to keep the other party content and prevent them from leaving. In this case, no matter what the other party does, distrust is always present and can lead to jealousy and unwarranted monitoring of the partner’s actions. Eventually, the partner may become frustrated, feel lonely in the relationship, and as a result, cheat or break up. In this scenario, the Saturn square Venus individual ends proving, ‘I was right all along,’ even though they themselves are to blame for the breakup.
Taking responsibility for emotions and self-love
Where Saturn is located, that’s where we must ‘grow up’ and take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. In this case, it means realizing and understanding that you can’t control someone else’s feelings. You can’t dictate (even if you demand) that someone should feel and love a certain way. Instead, you must love yourself. In fact, a person should consider why they are so dependent on someone else. Often, the reasons trace back to childhood. Perhaps they never felt genuinely loved for who they were but always had to be something other than themselves. If this mindset still prevails, you can never relax and trust life and other people to provide emotional support.
When a person learns to understand and accept that they don’t actually need another person to be happy, they can genuinely love others and receive love without demands and expectations.
Saturn square Venus synastry
In terms of romantic relationships, this aspect is not the most pleasant, as most people desire easy and effortless love and companionship. Also Saturn’s lessons usually require a lot of time before they yield benefits.
In a synastry chart, the described dynamics play out in a way where one party takes on the role of Saturn, and the other of Venus. The Venus person feels rejected and like they are constantly demanded to give more and more. They never feel like they are enough. At this point, it’s important for the Venus person to look at their own birth chart and see how self-worth and relationship issues manifest there. Has the other person entered their life to represent a particular (Saturn) energy so that they can become aware of their own growth area about self-worth?
The Saturn person also desires love in the same way as the Venus person. For some reason, they behave restrictively, demandingly, harshly, and so on with their partner. Perhaps they should be more forgiving and loving toward themselves, which would enable them to love others more easily. Why do they demand so much from others? Could their own birth chart indicate a need for greater self-reliance on their part, rather than just expecting it from others?
Mutual independence and respect
If both parties learn and overcome Saturn’s challenges (which is not a quick process due to Saturn), they both grow into independent individuals who value themselves in the relationship. Neither is dependent on the other, and they can respect each other, themselves, and people in general. If a relationship reaches this stage, it is likely to endure many challenges and run for a long time (Saturn rules old age too).